Greater Appreciation can come from discipline, faith & waiting. In today’s fast paced microwave quick world often we believe success, dreams and goals can and should be microwave quick. Yet, I believe microwave quick can often be too quick. Sometimes the waiting and working for something actually gives you greater appreciation for whatever you have achieved, earned, accomplished.
My twelve-year-old daughter Sydney started asking for a younger sibling around age three. Phil and I always wanted to have another child and at one time thought a two to four-year age gap would be perfect. When Sydney started asking for a sibling, we told her that it’s our plan very soon. However, when Sydney was around three my dad was battling for his life and I was traveling along with Sydney every three weeks to a cancer center out of state. When Sydney was around five she regularly asked and prayed for a sibling. We too were praying and hopeful we would have another baby soon. My dad had recently passed and we thought the timing was perfect. A baby would be a happy addition to our family. Yet, God’s timing was different and his plan had many ups, downs and turns. As a family we experienced sadness over and over, never sure if we would welcome another baby. We stayed in prayer and trusted in God’s plan. Sydney was ten when her sister Siena was born. Sydney’s love and appreciation for her sister couldn’t be greater. Today, Sydney is 12 and Siena is 2. Siena is a toddler so she can be demanding, loud and hyper. Siena is a happy fun girl, but strong willed. Sydney patiently plays with her, watches her, loves her and smothers her in kisses and hugs. Sydney isn’t jealous, mean, or frustrated with her busy toddler sister. Instead, every day she is the best big sister who appreciates the sibling she prayed and waited for. Sydney would have been a really good big sister without the wait, but I don’t believe she would be as appreciative if she got her baby sister when she wanted her. The wait has made her better, and in turn will make their relationship stronger. God’s timing was perfect.
I share this story to give you hope and perspective. Maybe you are praying for something or someone, and maybe the story isn’t playing out as you wrote the script. However, maybe there is another script to your story that is better than you could ever write. I couldn’t have written the story of Sydney and Siena as great as God did. His plan and his script is better than I could have ever imagined. Partially because I didn’t know what I didn’t know, and the years that I thought a baby would have been great in hindsight weren’t the best time for our family or our business. I couldn’t see that six years later would be better, and that the waiting would give our entire family a greater appreciation for the wonderful addition to our family. My advice is to stay in prayer, stay in faith, stay positive and trust in God’s timing and his script. The wait is worth it! I have known people that had easy, quick success in all different aspects of life and they didn’t appreciate it, and therefore they weren’t as successful, appreciative, or as happy as they could have been. Enjoy the journey!
Warm regards Angela